Ladies: Why Don’t You Make The Effort On A First Date?
Is everyone agreed that we all want a lasting relationship that is more than quick fumble under the sheets? Let’s face it – most of us would rather spice up a long relationship than not be in one. But, to get to that point, we have to start dating. Yep, that means the dreaded first date! It’s always awkward getting to know a complete stranger, especially when convention dictates that the man takes control. Well, conventional wisdom is wrong because women can dictate terms if we please. So, where do we start?
Make A Move
Before we can snag ourselves a great guy, we have to find one. Nope, that isn’t a dig at all the pigs out there that have done wrong. It’s a simple truth that to meet someone, we have to make a move. Us girls like to leave it up to the guys, but that isn’t good enough any longer. It’s time for us to take the bull by the horns. So, if you see someone that you like, don’t be afraid to say hello. Watching him all night hoping he glances at you might be ‘ladylike,’ but it isn’t going to get you far. The same goes for waiting for a message on Tinder. Yes, dating apps are fair game, too.
Think Of Something Fun
We have all been on our fair share of bad dates. When you look back, do you realize what was wrong? Usually, it isn’t the connection – it’s the fact that the environment didn’t allow the relationship to grow. For example, a night out at the movies is a nice idea. However, for the majority of the film, we have to sit in silence. How does that help both parties have fun? It doesn’t, but a bowling alley or a cooking class does. Even the stereotypical drink at a bar is an excellent way to gauge the person and learn more. Hey, it’s a stereotype for a reason. When you think about organizing the first date, think of the places where you can have the most fun.
Women always have a problem when men don’t listen, but we do the same thing from time to time. When he speaks, it’s important to try and understand what he is saying. There is nothing about this that undermines our feminism because he will do the same thing. It’s the only way to hold a conversation, and a conversation can spark so much more. Also, his words will give you a better understanding how he thinks and acts. Far too many people take words at face value without analyzing what is underneath. It’s the analysis that reveals the nuggets of gold that might tempt you into a second date.
There is a rule among guys and girls that no one can be themselves for the first couple of dates. Sure, we might keep some cards close to our chest, but they are insignificant at that point anyway. For the most part, the things that make us who we are should be there for all to see. If you have a dark sense of humor, that’s not your fault. Most men are accommodating enough to understand, and, if they aren’t, they can find someone else.
Ladies, never pretend to be a person you’re not.