Can You Keep The Spark After Kids?
There’s no denying that when you have kids your entire life is going to change. You experience an incredible, sudden shift in priorities. Things that once seemed important seem to fade into the background, and things you never realized were important suddenly occupy the forefront of your mind. With so much change going on in your life, there’s no doubt that it’s going to have an impact on your relationship. In many ways, having children can be a wonderful thing for your relationship. It brings you closer together in your shared love of this new life in your arms. However, the stress of having children can sometimes take its toll on a relationship. It can feel as though the spark that was once such an important part of your relationship has faded in a sea of diaper changing and midnight feeds. But it doesn’t need to be that way, here are some things that you can do in order to bring the spark back to your relationship after you’ve had kids.
Make the effort
In the early days of your relationship, it can feel as though everything just happens so easily that you never need to put in any effort in order to make things work. However, that can change pretty drastically when you’ve got little ones running around. Suddenly something as simple as taking a romantic moment to tell your partner how much you love them can actually take a lot more effort than you may have thought. It’s important to remember that and to take the effort to show your partner how much you care. Buy them some roses for no reason, write them little notes reminding them how much you care, let them know how much you appreciate them. These things might not seem like much, but they can help you remind each other that you’re still a couple and not just two people who live together and have a child.
Appreciate the little things
Of course, not everything has to be about grand gestures. Sometimes the best thing to do is simply to learn to appreciate the little things about each other and your relationship. Be mindful of the little things in your life. Something as simple as enjoying the company of your partner when your child is in bed, and you can just sit and watch the TV together. It’s not the kind of thing that will be turned into a great romance novel, but learning to appreciate something small and simple like that can make a big difference in your relationship.
Take time for yourselves
Just because you’re parents, doesn’t mean that you’re not still independent people. It’s important that you sometimes take time for yourselves and each other away from the kids. Get a babysitter for a night and go on a date, just the two of you. You’ll be amazed at how much you’ll enjoy just getting to spend a few hours alone with each other without any interruptions. It gives you the chance to reconnect, to really talk to each other, and to remember why you fell in love in the first place.
