Can Couples Move on From Infidelity and Avoid Divorce?
A single case of infidelity is like cancer that eats away at any relationship. It takes a huge amount of faith and willpower from the aggrieved spouse to forgive and move forward. And when they do, it is almost always for the wrong reasons.
But infidelity is only one of the causes of marriage failure. Most often, it does not occur in a vacuum. Multiple factors contribute to the breakdown in the relationship, and couples do not usually address them until it is too late.
Your family expert would help you get to the bottom of the issue and nip the problem in the bud and not allow it to fester until it hits the tipping point.
According to the World Economic Forum, the divorce rate in the United States has been declining since the early 1990s. For instance, in 1992, the divorce rate was 4.8 per 1,000. As of 2016, the figure dropped to 3.2 incidents per 1,000 people.
Common Causes of Divorce
Meanwhile, the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts ran a survey that mapped out the leading causes of why a marriage breaks down. Based on the results, the main reason that couples cite is basic incompatibility. It accounts for 43% of the divorce cases in the United States. Infidelity is the cause of 28% of the divorce incidents in America, followed by emotional or physical abuse (5.8%).
Why do Partners Cheat?
You see this happening in many marriage relationships. Couples who appear to be very happy end up divorcing after one of them cheated. A survey of 495 people, part of The Journal Sex Research, revealed an insight into why seemingly happy people cheat on their partners.
Among the reasons they cited in the survey are:
- Absence of love
- Lack of intimacy
- Temptation or lust
- Neglect
- Situations
- Personal milestones
- Lack of commitment
- Adventurism
- Confidence-booster
- Retaliation
In between those reasons are some other small reasons that could push one person to cheat on the partner.
Is the Marriage Salvageable?
The main question is whether or not you can move on from the colossal betrayal after your partner cheated on you. Your marriage will not survive without threshing out all the issues and bringing them to the surface. The aggrieved spouse tends to bottle up the emotions, put them somewhere deep inside the recesses of the minds.
All it takes is a single trigger for them to explode.
Your family expert will help you answer the question: is your relationship worth saving in the first place? The next steps will emanate from your answer.
The good news is that you can achieve healing even after a moment of weakness. Your situation is not unique. Countless couples all over the country have been in the same boat, and they managed to hold on to what they value the most. Their marriage survived. But it will not be easy.
In fact, with the technology today, you do not even need a personal visit with Your family expert for one-on-one counseling. You can download an online workshop for free, which will outline easy-to-follow steps for you to save your marriage. The first step is for you to acknowledge your grief and anger resulting from the betrayal and move from there.
